31.7.08

TFT-Modern Day Swingers

Check out this article. So picture this, my mom and I sitting at my island yesterday reading this article together. A little weird yes, but thank God she felt the same as I did about swinging. EWWWW. I didn't have the guts to ask her about her days as a young wife, those things are better left unsaid.

There is also a tv show on CBS dedicated to swinging. I have to admit, I watched the show once and it was terrible. The acting was bad, the plot lines were weird and the characters weren't very believable. But, obviously enough people are interested in the phenomenon to keep tuning in.

So what are your thoughts? Is this something a psychologist should examine? Is it healthy or unhealthy? Do you think it's a good idea and intrigues you? Do you find it just plain ole' disgusting?

I think the idea of swinging is interesting. It's so hard for me to believe that people actually do this because I just don't feel that it is a smart idea. Don't you think that a marriage would essentially fall apart? I highly doubt that a single person would be able to say it wouldn't bother them even a tiny bit if they spouse swapped. Even a hint of jealousy (and rightfully so in this case) could tear a marriage apart. Alright, let's discuss.

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6 comments:

Kim said...

I do not like that show. I think swinging is dirty. That's just my thought on it.

jessica said...

how can you have a strong marriage and be a swinger? i agree. i think it would take away the intimacy, the focus on your partner. my biggest thought is eeeeeeeeewww.

Robyn said...

EWW is my thought too. I know at least one couple who have an "open" marriage. She is allowed to have one nighters if she wants. I think he is pretty faithful from what I gather. I just wonder why they got married in the first place.

heather said...

I'm not even sure of the words I would use to describe my thoughts on swinging. I just cannot get past the WHY. I don't think it's healthy, I don't think it's a good idea and it doesn't intrigue me except for the fact that it boggles my mind how some people operate.
I wonder how anyone think can it possibly be good for a marriage? How can it possibly be good for anyone involved? I think it's a huge red flag that something (or someone) is definitely wrong.

Swinging or not, that whole "sex" club thing disgusts me. I can't even imagine going into a place knowing the whole thing, the sole purpose for being there, is about sex. The fact that everything is so focused on the physical, that everyone is just checking each other out, that you could just walk up and french kiss a stranger (of the same sex, no less!), or watch people having sex from behind a window. It honestly sickened me that the author of that article made a point of saying that it was not sleazy or uncomfortable, but rather professional and respectful. Since when has being sexual with someone, or multiple someones, other than who you are married to become something that can be done respectfully?!

It just blows me away how sexually perverted our society can be.
I think it's sad.

Denise said...

Like others have said, I don't know how a marriage can mean anything if you are a swinger. I mean, what would be the point?

Denise said...

One more thing...I have always wondered what would happen if a child were to come out of one of these swinging relationships or encouters...do you know who the father is and who takes responsiblity for the child? I think you're just setting yourself up for potential disaster.